Little Miss Sunshine

" I feel like sometimes I’m in my own little world and you’re always next to me and I don’t know how you do it but you understand me.

I can’t remember anything without you “

" Today I’m here to warn you that you are being lied to. Our parents, our teachers, and our doctors have lied to us with the exact same lie, the same six words. Everything is going to be okay. But what if it isn’t ? What if some of human experiences are just something you inherit, like curly hair or blue eyes ? What if pain is just in your DNA and tragedy is your birthright ? Or what if sometimes, right out the blue, when you least expect it, shit just happens ? Okay I’m sure right now you’re all thinking "man, this is the darkest graduation speech I’ve ever heard" and it is. I agree with you. But I didn’t write it. I’ve spent so much time waiting for this lie to come true that I finally paid someone to tell the truth for me. I’m not okay, not at all, the truth is, I’m missing something. The thing I loved the most, the face I wish were in the front row right now, the brother I’ll never get back. So what do I do with that ? What do any of us do ? Besides lie. This is what I believe, right now, in this auditorium, there is someone who is with you, someone who is willing to pick you up, dust you off, kiss you, forgive you, put up with you, wait for you, carry you, love you. So while everything may not be okay, one thing I know is true, you do not have to be alone.

" It’s as if he died, but hasn’t had the good sens to take his body with him. So mostly what he does is sleep.

We reach a point where, in order to go on, we have to wipe the slate clean. We start to see ourselves as a box that we’re trapped inside and no matter how we try and escape, self help, therapy, drugs, we just sink further and further down. The only way to truly break out of the box is to get rid of it all together… I mean, you built it in the first place. If the people around you are breaking your spirit, who needs them ? […] I mean, put them out of their misery. Starting over isn’t crazy. Crazy is being miserable and walking around half asleep, numb, day after day after day. Crazy is pretending to be happy. Pretending that the way things are is the way they have to be for the rest of your bleeding life. “

" They say when you meet the love of your life, time stops, and that’s true. What they don’t tell you is that when it starts again, it moves extra fast to catch up.

There’s a time when a man needs to fight, and a time when he needs to accept that his destiny is lost, that the ship has sailed, and that only a fool will continue. The truth is, I’ve always been a fool. “

" Fear and panic are two separate emotions. Fear is healthy, panic is deadly. You better ask yourself, what do you want to leave behind ? The truth of who you really are.. or just some words on a page ? All that stuff that’s burning deep down inside of you, what is that ? That stuff you can’t even look at because it scares you too much.

What are you afraid of ? You’ve got a chance to change everything. Take it […] This is about choices you make in life. This is about finding that one thing that sets you free. You need to believe in yourself or none of this matters. “

" So, today’s lesson was about the power of observation. The simple fact is that you’ve got two choices : you can fight things head on or you can observe the laws of Nature. Because if you look hard enough, there’s always a way through it.

When the negative stuff comes around, just let it go. It all leads to the positive as long as you keep a positive attitude. Enjoy everything you get. That’s one of the most important things in life is really appreciating it because we only get to do this once and it’s not for a long time, so enjoy it. “

" I swore I’d never do anything just because everyone else was doing it. I don’t like to do what people expect. Why should I live up to other people’s expectations instead of my own ? You don’t always have to be who they want to be, you know.

Don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you don’t deserve what you want

"  I know what they’re thinking. They think this pretty little girl will make them happy, make their lives easy. But whenever I see it happen, I always want to say the same thing. Good luck. Because you still have a woman in front of you, my friend. And you are still a man. It’s still two human beings trying to get along, so it’s going to become complicated. And love is complicated. But still humans must try to love each other, darling. We must get our hearts broken sometimes. This is a good sign, having a broken heart. It means we have tried for something “

" If you’re brave enough to leave behind everything familiar and comforting, which can be anything from your house to bitter, old resentments, and set out on a truth-seeking journey, either externally or internally, and if you are truly willing to regard everything that happens to you on that journey as a clue and if you accept everyone you meet along the way as a teacher and if you are prepared, most of all, to face and forgive some very difficult realities about yourself, then the truth will not be withheld from you. “

" Miracles. Events with astronomical odds of occurring, like oxygen turning into gold. I’ve longed to witness such an event, and yet I neglect that in human coupling, millions upon millions of cells compete to create life, for generation after generation until, finally, your mother loves a man […] a man she has every reason to hate, and out of that contradiction, against unfathomable odds, it’s you - only you - that emerged. To distill so specific form, from all that chaos. It’s like turning air into gold. A miracle. And so, I was wrong. Now dry your eyes, and let’s go home.

I can change almost anything but I can’t change human nature. “

" If God saw what any of us did that night he didn’t see to mind, then on I knew .. . God doesn’t make the world this way : we do. “

" The heart is the body’s strongest muscle..

All birds need to fly ; you have the wings

" Begin to be now what you will be hereafter. One might ask how ? Our deespest guide in our beginning to be, is our imagination. Our ability to project, and mold our future selves from the myriad possibilities before us. And to imagine takes courage and effort. But it gives us hope too, hope that we can author our own destinies, hope that rightness of the decisions we make now will be borne out in the future. As much as we can be overwhelmed by the world, we can also draw hope from it. From beauty, from promise, from the simple fact that we have the talent to imagine our future selves from all the possible lives that pass before our eyes. We must imagine our lives well. We must engage our conscience. Conscience is the voice of God in the nature and heart of man. “

" For what it’s worth, it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I Hope you see things that startle you, feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. And if you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again. “

" Our lives are defined by opportunities, even the ones we miss "

" We’re meant to lose the people we love. How else would we know how important they are to us ? “